When we lose someone we love, many times we want to avoid Grief, but really what we are avoiding is the pain we feel from loss. Grief is a natural reaction that helps us heal that pain.
Below you’ll find two videos published by grief.com that can help you heal grief. They are hosted by David Kessler who is the world’s foremost expert on grief and loss. The information provided in these videos is for informational purposes only. Everyone’s grief is different but what David Kessler shares in these videos is helping me after I lost my Mom and they might help you too.
There is no set timetable for grief. You may start to feel better in 6 to 8 weeks, but the whole process can last anywhere from6 months to 4 years. You may start to feel better in small ways. It will start to get a little easier to get up in the morning, or maybe you’ll have more energy.
Everyone grieves differently and for different reasons, but one thing remains constant in the process.
Despite a widely-held belief in stages of the grieving process, and predetermined notions of how we should all behave in mourning, the truth of the matter is, grieving is unique for everyone. We may experience common emotions, however, not in the same order, not within the same time period, and certainly not always in the same way.
Reactions also vary from person-to-person and can depend upon a number of factors. There is no right or wrong way to react, feel or grieve, and while some behaviors may seem abnormal or worrisome, most are quite normal and simply that particular person’s way of dealing with his or her loss. Even if you’re able to somehow avoid it all day long, grief comes back to you in your sleep. It’s laying right on your heart as you wake up. One moment you feel you’ve fully moved past something, the next moment it’s right back in front of your face.